Things have changed this week.
FPR and I have been on another holiday – a five-day coach trip to Devon. Yes, it was very soon after our recent cruise but we just felt like going. Once we were there things looked slightly different.
Now, if you were to ask my baby son, he would tell you that I am a pessimist and, to a certain extent, he would be right. However, like many people with a chronic condition, when it comes to thinking about how much I can do, it’s a very different story: I am definitely grossly over-optimistic. That, of course, was what happened when FPR and I discussed taking this short break. I completely over-estimated how much I would be able to do during the holiday. I don’t see that as an altogether bad thing as it means I haven’t completely lost hope, but I realise that for FPR it is likely to be frustrating.
One thing that I have realised during the two holidays is that I really do need to have a look at how I live my life and what changes it would be wise to make. So, that is what I have started doing. Already! We arrived home on Friday evening and I started changing things this morning (Sunday). Pretty good going, huh?
During the time since I finished working, craft activities have taken up a large proportion of my time. I love to make things and I love to give the things I make to others, especially if the items could help them. Consequently I have huge amounts of crafting materials stashed in various places around our home. I have particularly large amounts of fabric and knitting yarn. I need to pass some of those materials to other people who can use them as I simply cannot do anywhere near as much crafting now as I was able to do a couple of years ago. Consequently, I am having to break down the life I was living and the activities I enjoyed doing and rebuild them into manageable pieces that I can cope with. As I mentioned above, I have begun that process today. I have sorted some of my fabric lengths and decided to donate several of them in a particular direction. Much of the stuff that I have was given to me to use for charitable purposes so, obviously, I must be mindful of that when deciding who I should give to. I think this process is going to take some time but I think it will be time well spent. At the end of it, I hope to be able to concentrate on using my energy on projects that give me a different kind of joy to that which I am used to experiencing through my crafting. In some ways, what I am working towards could be seen as quite selfish, but I feel that it is what I need to do to help me during these changing times. I need to find my new ‘normal’.